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Who would you turn to in times of trouble??? And who would you turn to first in times of happiness??? Ur parents or ur friends??? Lately, ive been reading a lot on parenting skills and such... So as for the question above, I would surely wouldn't want my angels to have to make a choice whether to share their probs or happiness with me FIRST or their friends instead. And i wouldn't want to force them to share it with me FIRST.. But intstead, it'll be nice and I really pray that the choices that they'll make comes naturally without being forced. WHY?? Coz i don't want to miss a thing of what is happening in their life be it good or bad. From birth to death(if i'm still here to witness it all). And yet i wont feel guilty if the choices made were not been forced. I'm here for them despite that they are thrown to the lowest of the life's cycle or even when they are up high and soaring thru the sky. I'm not here to judge or punish them. But as a parent, as a mother, I'm responsible to be their guidance and their shoulder to cry on.
Parents should be a child's best friend from babies to adults. In order to make it a reality, we, as parents should make the first move. How? Here are some of the tips i find helpful on the net. Enjoice:
How to Listen to Your Children Like a Friend
Step 1
Although you need to be a parent to your children, there are times when being a friend is better. It will help you become a part of your child's entire life and not just his disciplinarian.
Step 2
Speak to your child like a friend when he needs to vent about his day at school. Ask him how his day was, what he learned, and about the challenges they faced. If he is faced with minor challenges, such as another child teasing them, encourage and focus on their good points. They will start focusing on the good parts too, and turn teasing into praising.
Step 3
Have your child tell you what he likes about himself. Listen to every word and encourage and provide strength for your child.
Step 4
Whether your child is an athlete, a musician, an artist or a scholar, encourage and praise him for everything he does. Participate in his life. If he plays football, go to the games and cheer for him. If he is struggling in a class, help him. If he works his way from a "C" to a "B", show him how much his efforts paid off; take him for ice cream or a special treat.
Step 5
Friends share everything. The more you share with your child, the more he will share with you.
Read more: How to Listen to Your Children Like a Friend | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_2159273_listen-children-like-friend.html#ixzz0rs8weFIV
It looks and sounds easy, but fact is, this are the things parents always overlook and take things lightly. They always teach their kids to be afraid of them in order to gain the kid's 'respect' and make the kids obey them. But seriously, the so called 'respect' doesn't last long. As soon as the child grows up, they tend to be rebellious. Being a friend to ur child needs a lot of patience, strength, courage and most importantly throw away ur ego. Always give words of wisdom and praises to your child whenever they manage to complete a task or manage to improve themselves eventhough the achievement is not so big compared to other child. And MOST IMPORTANTLY, never ever compare ur child to any other child of ur own or to anyone. Islam strongly prohibits those behaviour. Every man are unique in their own way. So accept them and help them to improve by encouragement not by criticizing and focusing on their -ve aspects. Last but not least, learn to say sorry to ur child whenever u have done wrong. This will help u gain their respect easier and eventually, they too will learn to say sorry to anyone everytime they have done anything wrong.
Good luck!!!
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